New Hilux spottie wiring

I keep killing my aux batteries. Fortunately the local Beaurepaires keeps replacing them on warranty, but they must getting as sick of it as I am.

While I'm checking a few other wiring setups, I'm querying the spotties relay.
The diagram I use was provided by the local Toyota dealer, and I've posted it here previously.
It certainly works, but the relay is always open and I wonder if that is creating a small but constant drain.

Could a few of you who have negative active highbeam please provide a relay wiring diagram so that I can confirm or change mine?!

For no apparent reason I've used one of those switches with a small led on the stalk on the dash. Which incidently didn't work in this situation.

I know neither of these factors alone will kill a battery, but the relay wiring is one thing I'd like to check.

Cheers,
John

FYI, the dual battery system has a pirhana gadget. Running of the aux battery full time are a grn radio, uhf & fridge. Based on discussions on this forum, I've got a powertech 12/6A charger which quite often I'll plug in overnight.