Convince wife of redundancy. How? URGENT!!!

Submitted: Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 17:34
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Ongoing effort in house hold of trying to convince wife to take a voluntary redundancy so we can travel around australia for a year or 2. Kids are 4 and 1yo. Girl and boy. Have car and offroad camper ready to go. Need urgent assistance to help convince.

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Shanegu6
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Reply By: Gramps - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 17:39

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 17:39
It'll probably be 20 years before you get another chance

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Reply By: Ozboc - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 17:48

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 17:48
1)Big Pay out -----

2)opportunity that may never come up again -- or maybe not until your old and grey and spending your kids inheritance

3)Life is meant to be enjoyed - not spent working ...

4) do something spontaneous and bugger the consequences ( that's what we are doing )

Boc
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Reply By: RV Powerstream P/L - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 17:48

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 17:48
You post on here to get assistance where most of the posters are probably married and one continually states He did anything he wanted before he was married .
It will be interesting to read the responses.
Ian
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Follow Up By: Member No 1- Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 07:51

Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 07:51
shhhhh! she might hear you
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Follow Up By: RV Powerstream P/L - Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 08:50

Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 08:50
I mention No one
Not No 1
Now youve blown your cover.
Ian
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Reply By: Member - DAZA (QLD) - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 17:54

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 17:54
G/Day Shane

Geez mate I'm the last one who should be giving any one advice on this matter, but here goes, sounds like you both are young and have the world in front of you, if you have all the thing you need re: Vehicle/ Camper/ and some Money, go for it, you will pick up work if you require it, and while the kids are young you won't have to worry about schooling, don't be like us Old Farts and leave it till you start falling apart re: Health Problems and use that as an excuse to turn into a Grey Nomad, yep get out there and do it mate.

PS. HEY, MRS STEVE TAKE MY ADVICE AND LISTEN TO SHANE.

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Reply By: The Landy - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 17:56

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 17:56
If the urge is too travel around Australia, than do it redundancy or not...

Mind you if you had the chance to take redundancy all the better!

Good luck
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Reply By: Louie the fly (SA) - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 18:01

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 18:01
Shanegu6, I've been trying to convince my wife for years that she's redundant. She won't believe me so she's still here. Is that the same question you're asking???

Seriously, try to sell the benefits of the experience. That it may be a once in a lifetime opportunity, how the young'uns will develop this bond with her (and you), and the connection they will have with each other and this great land of ours. The real life experiences will set them up for the rest of their lives. My missus & her sister & brother were shipped off to Europe & Scandinavia when she was about 7. They came back when she was 15. Their family unit is like 'best friends' because of the things they did during that time.

If that doesn't work go by yourself!

Louie
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Reply By: Member - Uncle (NSW) - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 18:13

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 18:13
Your Mrs could get to shop in multiple locations across Australia! But seriously, just do it.We didn't know whether to accept a job opportunity that was offered to us last year on a station while travelling, but we were so glad we did.Would have kicked ourselves repeatedly if we had not done it when we got home.One thing I cant stand is not knowing what could have been, or what we could have done, shoulda done.
I always remember when we met Kerry Stanley on the Nullarbor riding across Oz on horseback with her 2 daughters to raise money for breast cancer, her motto was "Turn coulda, into shoulda!"Image Could Not Be Found
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Reply By: Member - Footloose - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 18:13

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 18:13
Tell her the stress of watching her work is killing you. :)))


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Reply By: Boobook2 - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 18:21

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 18:21
If you get better advice from 10000 people that you have never met, than somone you have a life comittment to then .....................................
GOOD LUCK in your life.


Ayyyeee Ahhh
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Reply By: blueriderwa - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 18:29

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 18:29
Mate i took a redundancy after 11 years with one company a couple of years back. It is worth it just for the tax consessions, they are great.

Best decission i ever made. Tell your wife to really do the sums it wont hurt at all and chances are that once you get back from your trip she will get a similar or better job with equal or better money....I know i did.

cheers
Dave
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Reply By: shanegu6 - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 18:35

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 18:35
shanegu6_wife here.

He fails to realise that it means 24x7 with the 4yr old that is NEVER quiet!!!! I'm just getting ready to get her into school next year!!!

In all serious, it's a big step to leave a job of 13 years, on great money, voluntarily. I know I should, and if they gave me a redundancy off their own back, I would cop it sweet and we'd be on our way. It's just volunteering to give it up!

And besides, how would I bake all the time???? The muffin tray doesn't fit in the camp oven!!!
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Follow Up By: Lex M (Brisbane) - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:04

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:04
Get a bigger camp oven, or a smaller muffin tray.
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Follow Up By: Member - Uncle (NSW) - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:14

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:14
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Follow Up By: blueriderwa - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:18

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:18
With the greatest of respect Mrs Shanegu6 you are worrying way too much about the great job and great money. I was in an almost identical situation 2 years ago but i had 3 kids, 2 in school and 1 at home, yes i had the mortgage, yes we are a one income family and yes we were worried if we would be able to survive ..... the answer is yes. The decision to take a voluntary redundancy was very difficult to swallow at the time but once it was made i knew i had done the right thing. The only mistake we made was not to go around Aus when i left that job, so we are planning on going before the end of this year. Trust me the world will not stop when you leave your job. Taking a voluntary redundancy is not a sign of weakness or a poor attitude it is just taking an opportunity and finally you are not a valuable employee because of your tenure in your job, it is because of your experience and expertise, you need to back yourself and take the redundancy and when you get back from your trip send your bloody husband to work and you can have a rest! :)
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Follow Up By: shanegu6 - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:28

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:28
Mrs Shanegu6 again...

Uncle - is that oven any good? Anyone used it before? Do you have to have the coleman cooker for it to work? I'm a bit addicted to baking ;-) I'm sure Mr Shanegu6 wouldn't mind if I packed the muffin tins and baking trays (not more bloody weight)!!!!

blueriderwa - hmmmm got me thinking again...
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Follow Up By: Member - Uncle (NSW) - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:42

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:42
Hi Mrs Shane,
we have one and have found it very good. Took it with us last year travelling across WA, Jodie did nice scones, cakes and very yummy potato bake in it.
Just sat it on top of our $20 gas stove most of the time. And it doesn't take much trouble to get to around 180 deg. Packs up quite small too.

cheers Unc
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Reply By: shanegu6 - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:35

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:35
Oh, and another question, Mr Shanegu6 is addicted to YouTube and Mrs to Facebook, can we get that via the HF radio ;-) hehehehehe
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Reply By: Member - DAZA (QLD) - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:53

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 19:53
Yeh it's me again Mrs Shane, many years ago I took a redundancy from the Local Government, after 26years doing 24/7, at the end I had to Pagers on my belt and two Mobile Phones, and a Two Way radio belting in my ear non stop, the Money was Excellent,the day I left, an old fellow said to me, Only The Rats That Can Swim Leave The Ship, The Other Rats Sink,

We had a 3 month break, then I started my own Plumbing Business and never looked back, TAKE THE REDUNDANCY AND BACK YOUR SELF,have fun.
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Reply By: D200Dug- Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 20:03

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 20:03
A holiday or trip is something once taken you cannot lose.

You will always have the experiences and memories.

The best thing you can give to children is time love and experiences no computer games or expensive toys can replace those.

Take a year off while you can you may not get the chance again for many years.
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Follow Up By: D200Dug- Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 20:05

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 20:05
Ask any doctor or nurse.

No one ever dies saying "I wish I had spent more time at work"
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Follow Up By: shanegu6 - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 20:07

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 20:07
That is sensational, you're 100% right, I've never heard anyone say that once.
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Reply By: landed eagle - Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 23:02

Monday, Jun 15, 2009 at 23:02
All of the above........plus this reason.

I've lost two good mates in the last 4 years. We were all planning to do the big trip when we were able to.
Both have died,one at 40 and the other, 44 leaving families behind.
I'm turning 45 this friday and in Sept my lot are off for 2 1/2 months as a taster for bigger things to come.

Do it now if you can! You may not get the chance.......... ever.

That's how I've approached things since their passing.


Work to live......dont live to work!!!!
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Reply By: Ray - Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 08:23

Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 08:23
I may be a bit old fashioned but surly with two young kids 4&1 the mother shouldn't be at work anyway
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Follow Up By: Member - Amy G (SA) - Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 08:53

Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 08:53
This unfortunately isn't achievable for many families these days- especially young ones with mortgages. It's sad but true, and I wish it wasn't the case, but both parents working is often one of those necessary evils these days!
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Follow Up By: Ray - Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 09:10

Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 09:10
Amy, I could not agree with you more. Money was made too easily borrowed in the past which in turn pushed the price of houses up to the stage where two incomes were required to pay off the debt.
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Follow Up By: Nargun51 - Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 16:45

Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 16:45
Ray

My wife is from a refugee family, who came to Australia (in 1957) with the clothes on their backs donated by the Red Cross. Her parents worked at least 2 jobs 7 days per week to ensure that their children obtained the standard of education (and living) that would take them out of the jobs that they had been forced to work in.

Both children are tertiary educated working in employment which uses their education. They grew up in an environment where their mother always worked (radically different than the Australia I grew up in at the same time). This has not adversely affected my wife or brother in law

My wife has worked since graduation except for a couple of years following the arrival of our 2 children. When she returned to work, I took long service leave on half pay and leave without pay to stay at home with the youngest

Loved the time home with my kids and it was a special time, but… I could feel my brain turning to mush

Coming from a work environment which was reasonably high pressure which required you to constantly use a number of different skills in changing environments to be at home with a 4 and 2 year old was…different.

When my wife made comments about her life as a stay at home mum, I once tended to roll my eyes. 6 months of full time child care was enough to change my mind.

Australia has changed dramatically in the last 50 years. Personally, I think for the better.

When 50% of the population has more freedom to choose what they want to do has got to be an improvement

Did you stay at home with your kids(if you have any)? Why not?

Why is it the woman’s role?
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Reply By: MrBitchi (QLD) - Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 08:48

Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 08:48
Mate, I'm at the other end of the school thing. I have a 15yr old in yr 11. Over the last few years things have been getting progressively busier in terms of school and extra curricular activities to the point that it's almost impossible for us to even get a weekend away, even during school holidays :-( Hopefully things will improve when school finishes...

Do it NOW. Get your trip in before the kids start school or you'll never do it. We did a big trip while junior was in yr2 and it was fantastic. She still remembers things we did and places we went on that trip.

Don't worry about the job. Opportunities will always present to those who look.
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Reply By: sweetwill - Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 09:36

Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 09:36
g/day shanegu6 and wife.
first of all wife sounds like she likes the job, secondly will the house and payments take care of themselves,thirdly dreaming about the big trip and actually doing it are two different things, camping is great for a week, month,even two months, in my travels i only ever free camp and yes i must admite that on more than one accasion iv met the odd couple him having a ball and she well and truelly over it, and yes i have met the ones that have sold the house with the dream of travelling only to find it was only a dream. sorry if i put a spanner in the works but just telling like it is good luck with whatever you decide bill.
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Reply By: ob - Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 14:49

Tuesday, Jun 16, 2009 at 14:49
Mr and Mrs shanegu6

What you guys are doing now is called life. This is no dress rehearsal and no rewind function that I know of. This from someone who has just turned 62.

All the best with your decision whatever it may be.

Cheers ob
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