My Dad found.

Submitted: Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 14:45
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To all those that sent me numerous MM's and supportive replies to a previous thread on Alzheimers, I wish to thank you.

My dads body was recovered, last Thursday, from a creek no more than 5 kms from home.
This was the second time the Police and SES have come to the aid of myself and family and again done their very best to help and support us.

We now have closure but talking with the Police, there will be hundreds of families sitting down to the Xmas table without that option.
I feel very much for them.

Im actualy ok with the whole situation, I could see this day coming and was, in a way, prepared.
You also seem, as the disease progresses, to form a slight detachment from that person. Thats not to say you dont love them any less.

Dad told me once..."Prince or Pauper, never forget right from wrong and always remember your manners, you'll stand tall amongst men".
This advice has held me in good stead all my life.

If there is anyone in your life that you haven't said thanks to or I love you for a while, do it today for tomorrow may be too late.


Cheers......Lionel.
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Reply By: Member - Lotzi (QLD) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 15:02

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 15:02
Glad he was found, thoughts are with you Lionel.

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Reply By: Member - Mark G Gulmarrad - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 15:03

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 15:03
Lionel

condolances from our family to yours.

may he RIP,cheers.
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Reply By: Wisey - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 15:09

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 15:09
Hi Lionel

Sorry to read of your dads passing, may he rest in peace.

Thankyou for the reminder to speak to loved ones. Just this week I thought I should contact my cousins, ....................and didn't. Yesterday mum rang to say Auntie had passed away on Tuesday. It was about then (tuesday) that I was thinking about them. I missed the a chance to tell someone I loved them and I missed them. So true about detatchment, my Auntie was ill for so many years and I sort of got complacent about it, knowing her pain will end but not wanting to lose her just the same.

My thought s are with you

Andy
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Reply By: Richard W (NSW) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 15:44

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 15:44
Lionel,

My condolences to you and yours.
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Reply By: Member - Vivien C (VIC) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:14

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:14
Lionel,

My deep sympathy to you and your family.

He sounds like he was a down to earth, honest and good man and he has given you a good foundation on which to base your life.

We lost mum in a car accident three years ago this month. The accident left my dad frail and broken hearted. I know and understand what you mean by telling the ones you care for how you feel.


Viv
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Reply By: V64Runner - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:15

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:15
Condolences to you and your family Lionel. I lost a family member to that insidious illness in 1983 and it was the hardest thing in my life I had to face up to. So our thouhts and prayers are with you and yours. Lousy time of the year for it to have happened. All the best
Peter & Family
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Reply By: Willem - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:20

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:20
Hi Lionel and family

Our thoughts are with you.

Kind regards

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Reply By: Member - Phantom (WA) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:21

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:21
Dear Lionel,
I am saddened by the news of your Dad but I am so gratified that it may mean closure for you and your family.
Anne & I wish you our sincerest sympathies and look forward to seeing you back on the road again.

Steve
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Reply By: Member - Cozzie Toodyay (WA) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:47

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:47
My condolences Lionel

Cozzie
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Reply By: Member - John D, Wandong (Vic) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:52

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:52
To Lionel and Family,
My deepest sympathy to you all.

Kind Regards,
John D
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Reply By: Member - barry F (NSW) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:58

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:58
Our sympathy to you and your family. No words can really ease the pain of your loss, but memories of the times you had together often are a good thing to focus on to help you move ahead.
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Reply By: Luke SA - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:58

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 16:58
Sympathy to you and yours

From us over here

Cheers
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Reply By: Member Brian (Gold Coast) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 17:11

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 17:11
Lionel,
That's good advice Lionel, please accept our condolences.

Regards

Brian & Gayleen.
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Reply By: Member - Oldbaz. NSW. - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 17:17

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 17:17
Your father was a man of integrity, Lionel, kind regards & sympathy to you &
your family....oldbaz & Ros.
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Reply By: Member - Stephen L (Clare SA) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 17:37

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 17:37
Hi Lionel,
I must still have been very hard for you and your family. Condolences and all the best. With comments from your dad like that, he sounded like he was a very wise man, and sadly those fundamentals of life are fast disappearing.

All the Best

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Reply By: Wilk0 - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 17:52

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 17:52
Hi Lionel


My condolences to you and your family.

You sound as though your a person of solid grounding and upbringing and that is one legacy that your dad (and mum) leave behind.

Many thoughts for you during this difficult time.

Wilko and Loz
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Reply By: Fiona & Paul - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 18:07

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 18:07
Condolences from us Lional A and our thoughts are with you. It's good to find you are OK with this as understanding can be difficult.

Hope we meet up with you on the road sometime.

Paul & Fiona
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Reply By: Member - Dunworkin (WA) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 18:15

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 18:15
Hi Lionel. please accept our deepest and sincerest sympathies to you and your family at this terrible time. In one way it was good that you were able to prepare yourself for this end but it still doesn't make it any easier.

We are all thinking of you.

Cheers


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Reply By: Member - Kroozer (WA) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 18:26

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 18:26
Lionel, sorry to hear the news, your Father sounded like a great man and i really like the advice he gave you. My father once told me to always say Goodbye to my mother and give her a kiss and tell her i love her whenever i left the house for any amount of time(minutes,hours,days etc), because he always regrets not being able to say Goodbye to his Mother before she passed.

All the best,

Regards
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Reply By: Member - Lia H (SA) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 18:58

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 18:58
Hi Lionel,

Condolences to you and your family. My nana, as well as most of the older generations in our family have all had alzheimers, dementia, or both. It can be tough and lonely.

In some ways, you begin to say your goodbyes as a long process under these circumstances, with some good days and some days where they have gone whilst they are still here.

Such good advice, you just never know when it's going to come, and regrets are a sad thing to carry. Make up with those you've been fighting with, and make sure you tell others how much you love and APPRECIATE them, every chance you can.

XO
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Reply By: Member - barbara M (NSW) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 19:37

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 19:37
Dear Lionel,
My thoughts and prayers are with you. Your father will always be wih you in your memories
barb
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Reply By: Member - Fred B (NT) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 20:25

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 20:25
Dear Lionel & Family,
sorry to hear of your loss. My Dad had it too, and there were times he could have been run over on Freeway (8kms from home and across 3 farms). It is a very sad and frustrating illness for both the victim and the family, so I have some understanding of what you are and have been going through.
Sincerely,
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Reply By: Old Dave - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 20:41

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 20:41
Our condolences Lionel, to you and your family.

Regards
Dave & Sandra
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Reply By: Member - Michael J (SA) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 20:50

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 20:50
Lionel,

I can but echo the thoughts and words of all our ExplorOz friends.

Take some comfort from all the good memories that will stay with
you.

Michael
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Reply By: Gramps - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 20:55

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 20:55
Lionel,

Our sincerest condolences.

Al
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Reply By: Member - joc45 (WA) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 21:51

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 21:51
My deepest condolences, Lionel.
Both my parents have passed on, one from alzheimer's, and while one thinks one has prepared themself for that day of reckoning, when the crunch comes, it's pretty tough all the same.
Be brave, be strong,
Gerry

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Reply By: Member - Bentaxle - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 22:43

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 22:43
Lionel,

We offer our sincerest condolences

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Reply By: Member - Tony S (WA) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 22:45

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 22:45
Our sincere condolences Lionel.
Your Dad is at peace now.
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Reply By: Top End Explorer - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 22:57

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 22:57
I'm glad you have piece of mind.

Sorry for your loss, our condolences.

Cheers Steve.
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Reply By: Member - Matt & Julie (VIC) - Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 23:21

Saturday, Nov 21, 2009 at 23:21
Hi Lionel

Our thoughts are with you at this sad time.

Matthew and Julie
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Reply By: Member - John (Vic) - Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 00:51

Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 00:51
Thats two sad posts I have opened tonight. :-((

Not much one can say other than my thoughts are with you at this time.

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Reply By: Member - Leanne W (NSW) - Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 08:36

Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 08:36
I'm so sorry for your loss. At least you have closure.
Sincere condolences
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Reply By: Gone Bush (WA) - Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 08:59

Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 08:59
It's always sad to lose a Dad or a Mum, Lionel.

Sincere condolences from me and Mrs Bush

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Reply By: jdwynn (Adelaide) - Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 10:21

Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 10:21
Lionel, a tragic day on EO. I am very sorry to read of your loss. Please accept my condolences.
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Reply By: Member - DAZA (QLD) - Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 11:25

Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 11:25
Hi Lionel

Sorry for your loss, remember the good times.


Darryl and Fay
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Reply By: Best Off Road - Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 15:05

Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 15:05
Lionel,

We're in Bali at the moment and the place we are staying at has Australian TV Channels beamed in from Perth.

We were watching the News last night and on comes a story about an Old Chap with Alzheimers found in a creek. This involved an interview with his son; a real Knock About Bloke, articulately spoken with his arm around his Old Mum. Jenny says to me, That Man's got a heart of gold.

We had no idea who that bloke was, then.

All the best to you and your family Linel.

Kind Regards,

Jim and Jenny.

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Reply By: Robin Miller - Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 16:37

Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 16:37
Hi Lionel

Will take special note of your words as have relative in similar situation.

Take care
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Reply By: Member - Alex B - Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 18:00

Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 18:00
Our thoughts are with you Lionel.
My father passed away 18months ago and was in the later stages of dementia, it was very hard to see him that way.

Our fathers are now at peace.

Best regards
Alex B
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Reply By: Member - Ann D (WA) - Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 21:17

Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 at 21:17
Condolence's to you and you family

Regards
Ann
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Reply By: Member - Lionel A (WA) - Monday, Nov 23, 2009 at 14:11

Monday, Nov 23, 2009 at 14:11
Thanks everyone for your kind words, they are appreciated.

What an amazing bunch of people on this site, like an extended family.



Cheers.......Lionel.
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Reply By: Member - Duncan W (WA) - Tuesday, Nov 24, 2009 at 00:34

Tuesday, Nov 24, 2009 at 00:34
Hi Lionel been away from the computer for 4 days so only just reading of your sad news. Please accept my deepest condolences to you and all your family.
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Reply By: Member - RFLundgren (NSW) - Thursday, Nov 26, 2009 at 20:02

Thursday, Nov 26, 2009 at 20:02
Hi Lionel

Have not been on here too much lately, so have only now just read about your dad. Please accept both mine and Tracy's deepest condolences for your loss.

Cheers

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