Friday, May 06, 2005 at 06:49
Hi Troy35,
The comments below are just my personal opinions only based on what our little family has been through and as each persons circumstances are very different, only you can make this decision.
I spent from 1974 - 1999 in the middle of the
Gold Coast. The convenience and lifestyle of living in a city where living costs were cheap, there was heaps to do, career opportunies were endless seem to indicate that life would be relatively easy and simple.
From my experience, this was not the case. In 1999 we moved to a small community of about 2000 people on the coast near
Bundaberg, a city of about 50,000 people. This was the best thing we have ever done but it still took some time to further simplify our life.
For example and in response to some of your comments:
"better education" - the kids, 7,12, and 15 had always been in private schools and when moving to this area they went to a private Christian College for the first couple of years. This was hard work for us, they hated it as they had done before and life was not any different. We removed them and placed them in state schools and they have never been happier, they achieve excellent results, we don't battle to get them to go to school, they do homework without us even asking etc......
"career opportunities" - I came to this area and wondered how we would survive as I had held excellent management positions and was used to earning a very high income, but sacrificed time with family, had a stressfull high pressure work environment, and was genrally not happy to acheive this. I now earn about half of what I did before and yet we are still able to do all that we want to do, I am happier, the kids enjoy doing much more simple things and have learnt to entertain themselves by spending much more time outside. We have a 4wd, a tent and a trailer sailer and all of our activities are usually based around something that includes their use. All in all it is a much healthier lifestyle.
I could go on and on but I think the key to this whole scenario is that I have found that getting out of the city, which now seems to me to be full of superficial people who wear masks to hide who they really are and get into rural Australia which is full of "what you see is what you get" people who are genuinely interested in each other, have the time to stop and chat, know everybody around them by name, share and borrow things and return them, this is what OZ is all about.
I have not locked my car or my house since I have been here and I don't hide behind security screens anymore. I have not witnessed any road rage for 6 years. My kids have a playstation and don't use it anymore.
I can see from your post that there are many practical reasons for you to move from the extremes of somewhere like
Broome but maybe there is a compromise for you and your family where you could move to, and not lose some of the things that you currently have that keep life simple and stress free. In many ways
places like
Broome are ahead of the metropolitan areas of Australia and many people like me have discovered this and are fleeing from the cities to keep our sanity. You are used to big
miles so maybe a move to somewhere within a couple of hours drive to your family in
Melbourne could be an option for you and would not be such a culture shock for your kids too. Try to make any move a move forward for your family in all aspects.
Good on you too mate for putting putting such considerable thought into this decision as it shows the care that you have for your wife and kids. Good luck with your decision mate.
Cheers,
Brett
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Follow Up By: troy35 - Friday, May 06, 2005 at 08:36
Friday, May 06, 2005 at 08:36
Brett,
Your post is the exact reason why I am so unsure about it all. Most people get out of the city for the relaxed and relatively safe country life. I however am doing the exact opposite and think to myself am I crazy for doing it. However I suppose all the reasons why you did leave the city are the reasons why I am considering moving to the city. I am in a situation where I need to earn more money and finances is probably one of the main reasons for moving. After reading your post I now think maybe we should stay.
Such a hard decision.
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