How to meet new people in a new town?

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My sister-in-law has recently moved to a new town, and is having trouble meeting new people. I've lived in my home town for a very long time so I'm not much help suggesting ideas for her. She's mid 30's, sinlgle and isn't interested in "internet dating". I'm hoping that members might be able to help with suggestions.
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Reply By: dindy - Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 19:35

Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 19:35
I think the best way other than the local pub or club is perhaps look at doing volunteer work, ses fire brigade, sporting clubs are always looking for auxiliary help, this all depends upon home commitments. Sometimes all it takes is to front up and ask if they need a hand and usually a friendly hand is extended.
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Reply By: Robin Miller - Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 19:39

Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 19:39
Make sure she breaks down a few times outside of town when those on way to work will see - flat tyre will do.

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Follow Up By: Michael ( Moss Vale NSW) - Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 20:46

Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 20:46
Good idea Robin, Fit Cooper tyres, they shoud let you down fairly often!! Michael




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Reply By: Member - Joe n Mel n kids (FNQ - Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 19:42

Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 19:42
having moved more times than you can count we see a bit eh ..... there are a lot of factors that work for you, if you have kids they will bring people to you, without kids it is really hard especially at that age, the size of the town, if small and an "old" town then give up as they seem to be very hard nuts to crack as they have known everybody forever in THEIR little town and will see you as sticking ya nose in, going to a pub is a good thing as you having a few drinks frees ya up and you do make freinds .... sometimes regretting it later hahahah..
We have found NEVER to expect to much to early and if you make a point of not really trying to hard then they come to you, it can take six months before some people will even say "hi" in the street in some places ..... end of the day they will come to you so sit back, enjoy and wait, the nice people come ..
Cheers n good luck to her..
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Follow Up By: Member - jethro - Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 20:10

Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 20:10
Yes Joe you nailed it.
When we moved to central QLD from Canberra one local said something along the lines of "you southeners just come up here make your money then leave".
It does take time, try not to let on that your not local, wait till they ask then chuckle to yourself at the reaction.
You just have to take it all in your stride and get out amongst it.

Good luck
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Reply By: uncle - Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 19:49

Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 19:49
Owning a Patrol with a 6.5 Chevy diesel in it is a good way to meet people.!
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Reply By: BarryR1 - Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 20:05

Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 20:05
Macca,

the size of the town will have a lot do with her ability to mix and meet. The smaller country towns are notoriously hard to break into but then they also have a strong community sporting base so volunteering with the local footy or playing for the netball/tennis clubs may be an in. There are always various local clubs, groups etc that may have an interest for her. Attending local functions, interest nights and social gatherings also.

She's a big girl, she'll work it out.

Cheers Baz.
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Reply By: the_fitzroys - Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 20:15

Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 20:15
Funny story - on a recent camping trip on the Darling at Pooncarie there were signs posted all over the place (including on the main road through town) about a 'Duck Cup' in aid of the RFDS at one of the properties up the river from where we were camped. As city people we took that as a general invitation to one and all to attend a fundraiser for a good cause. When we arrived we were met with startled looks and some surprise. They did warm up after that but those signs were obviously for locals, not anyone camping or passing through from Wentworth to Menindee.

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Reply By: Motherhen - Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 20:51

Tuesday, Mar 13, 2012 at 20:51
As Baz says, in country towns you have to join the sporting clubs or community groups. Once they know someone new is in town, they will all be fighting to get the newcomer on their committee as Secretary or what ever.

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Follow Up By: ExplorOz - Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 16:48

Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 16:48
Yup! We would concur - sports and hobbie groups are the perfect way to meet likeminded people. Libaries also usually have brochures on the local clubs/functions/concerts and activities going on and the local council should also have similar info. Get her to pick up all the info around town (including go the visitor centre), sift through to find an activity/group/meeting of interest and let the rest happen naturally. You only need to find 1 person - they'll introduce her. Otherwise, get a volunteer position at the local animal welfare shelter, library, kindergarten (admin or gardening) etc.
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Reply By: Hairy (WA) - Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 00:10

Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 00:10
The pub!.......say no more!
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Follow Up By: the_fitzroys - Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 00:28

Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 00:28
Ordinarily I'd agree with you Hairy. But she's a single 35 year old woman in a small town. She could be straight as a die but most wives in the place are going to look at her as trouble if she's hanging around the pub as a single woman. First things first. Make some friends with the girls before the blokes.

Her best bet is the SES and Rural Fire Brigade, Sporting Clubs, volunteering. If she's single, what's her employment status? Will she work in the town? - in which case she will meet people. Harder if she travels elsewhere for work.

Having been down a similar road I would stay out of the pub as first port of call to meet people.

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Reply By: bgreeni - Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 00:38

Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 00:38
I have moved into many country towns, and due to my employment it was obvious that we were only going to be there for a few years.

We always got involved in the local church and soon found a circle of friends. Not for everyone I know but certainly worked for us. I guess the same would apply to other local organisations, but the clue is to get involved.
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Reply By: get outmore - Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 03:57

Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 03:57
sorry i dont mena to be rude but mid 30s and single?????

if moving into a rural town where women are more valuable than gold she does have to have something wrong with her.

single women - or any women moving into town is BIG news

sure the other women wont want to talk to her due to her being the big happening thing but im sorry its just not possible the guys arnt falling all over themselves
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Follow Up By: ross - Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 20:35

Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 20:35
If the guys are so great in country towns,why did all the women move out in the 1st place. LOL
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Reply By: Member - DAZA (QLD) - Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 08:21

Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 08:21
Put an Advert in the local paper.

Hi all recently moved to this lovely town.

Wanting to meet people re: community gatherings ect.

Willing to help with local projects.

Not interested in Sheep Docking.


Cheers
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Reply By: Adricat - Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 10:04

Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 10:04
Stand on a strete corner in a short skirt.
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Follow Up By: Bill BD - Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 14:29

Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 14:29
Never worked for me.
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Reply By: Member - Carl- Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 10:55

Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 10:55
Mackayboy

Sent her to the local ambo depot in town. Say she is looking for a medical kit and wanting some advice on what to do. New to town, etc etc.

They know everyone in town, good bad and best of all ugly. The can tell where to go, who to talk to and where to stay away from. Generally they are good guys and besides the police can put their finger on every thing.
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Reply By: Member - Russler - Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 19:02

Wednesday, Mar 14, 2012 at 19:02
Does she have dogs? What about having a morning or afternoon tea break at the local cafe for a few days, having taken the pooches for a walk? Lotsa people will have dogs and so they've already got something in common (two things if they also like a cuppa).

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