To Pull up Stumps!!. & Go
Submitted: Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 16:03
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Member - Axle
After living in the one area for 35yrs, its been in the back of my mind to pull up stumps and try some where else. My good wife who has a taproot a mile long, near had a fit and has been sulking ever since i mentioned the idea. I told her man was a natural wanderer, hasn't helped much! said she would write to me :)).
Any one else been through this??.
Cheers Axle.
Reply By: Kev M (NSW) - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 16:14
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 16:14
Give her
membership of Ex Oz and enjoy your travels.
Mine would give her right leg for me to hit the road more often.
Start by renting the house and hit the road for an undetermined period when money gets tight sell the house and buy where you have found that you want to settle. She will be none the wiser .................maybe.
Good Luck
Kev
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Follow Up By: Member - Axle - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 17:54
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 17:54
Kev! a Big Maybe! . . .
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Reply By: Member - Boo Boo (NSW) - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 16:20
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 16:20
Axle
We are in the process of doing what you are considering.
My wife has looked at positions as far away as the Alice and
Jabiru (3800Km). (We live in
Scone NSW), but in our case both of us are happy to move after 23 years in the one place.
In your case why not tell her she is going whether she likes it or not. It sounds like the direct approach would work
well with your darling wife.
P.S. Tell us what hospital to send the flowers too when you wake up!
Regards Boo Boo
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Follow Up By: Member - Axle - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 16:58
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 16:58
It would be no use sending flowers mate, I"'d never wake up!!.
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Reply By: Footloose - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 16:27
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 16:27
Have a good think first. Many people assume that wherever they resettle, things will be better. They may not be. Many forget that they have a social/family network that will be missing at the new
homestead.
Depends on a whole host of things.
We pulled up stumps 20 years ago, but it was with my wife's blessing and we both had jobs to go to. Things were tough at first, but now she won't go back even for a holiday.
I couldn't do it again, too old and set in my ways. The main thing is that both of you are happy with whatever decision is made.
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Follow Up By: Member - Axle - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 16:53
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 16:53
That is the thing! footloose , The family bond Grand Kids etc, Would miss that
but its not like we won't communicate ever again. Mother & daughters with phones! never stops.
As a earthmoving machine operator work sort of varies state to state, but is obtainable. But as you say there is a lot to consider.
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Follow Up By: Footloose - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 17:14
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 17:14
Depending on where you end up, your kids might follow you. That's the down side:)
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Reply By: Member - Doug T (W.A) - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 17:12
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 17:12
Axle
When I was a kid I lived at
Chain of Ponds ,
Adelaide Hills, and there were many people in that little town that the furtherest they went was
Gumeracha,
Kersbrook, and
Adelaide , and I at the age of 9 had been to
Sydney , then when 11 we went to
Brisbane , and the travel bug had bitten me , I could just not understand how people could be born and die in a town and only travel 30
miles from where they lived their whole lives.
Axle you are guaranteed to only get one go at life , make the most of it, We have a wonderful world out there even if a few humans do try to stuff it up , and i know they will not and cannot succeed,
On the other hand when you have commitments in a marraige can be a problem but I'm sure you will sort it all out mate .
Doug
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Follow Up By: Member - Axle - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 18:13
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 18:13
Doug
I like a challenge, the wife likes security and rightly so, But as you say you only get one go at it.
Axle.
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Follow Up By: Member - Barry (NT) - Sunday, Jan 28, 2007 at 00:30
Sunday, Jan 28, 2007 at 00:30
Ah many beers had at the Chainy pub , ex
Gumeracha boy myself, left in 1969, now 22 yrs in NT about to go round
the block for next few years
cheers Barry
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Reply By: GaryInOz (Vic) - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 18:15
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 18:15
Mel-
Gold Coast-Bris-Mel-Bris-
Gold Coast-Bris-Mel-
Townsville. Many intermediate moves within the destinations stated over the last 22 years.
Change is as good as a holiday......
Most
places in Australia are no more than 4-5 hrs flight away if you need to return.
It is nice to see how other parts of Oz live, and to welcome your friends over on visits.
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Reply By: Member - Andy Q (VIC) - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 18:28
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 18:28
Dear Axle
My good friends Sally and Andrew have decided, after 4 years improving a bit of land by bulldozing a platform for a future house, and improving a little 1 bed shed to live in, and putting in water tanks, shed and compost
toilet and shower, have just finished a 1 day garage sale to sell off all their belongings.
They are off around Oz with their 2 dogs and first stop is to house sit a
farm for 4 months. I am the one left behind after making myself settle and buy so I can be a good citizen and neighbour. I am feeling I should never have bought but been the nomad I was born to be! I think you should travel, and write to your good wife, and come
home every now and again and discover each other at each
home coming! You are a big boy now and your wife does not need to hold your hand every step of the way.
Ciao Sarah ( guys my spot at the computer has been hijacked, andy!besides we've done this type of thing twice before, we don't belong .......anywhere)
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Reply By: troopyman - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 18:30
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 18:30
As i said before , rent out your house for a few years then move into a rental somewhere for a year or so too see if you like the area and if it doesnt work out , try somewhere else then you still have your beloved house if you get the bleep s with it . cheers .
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Reply By: Willem - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 20:31
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 20:31
I was born a nomad.
Although I spent 20 years of my life in the Northern Territory it was no more than 3 years at a time at one place.
After being on the road full time for 5 years SWMBO said " Enough!!! I want a house." So we stopped here in SA and have been stationary for 7 years now. I would pack up and leave for the wide open spaces tomorrow but it will have to be on my own....lol The missus even gives the hard 4x4 trips a miss these days preferring the quiet but busy life of a country town.
I have met many travellers who have sold up everything to go on the road full time. It is good for a few years but afterwards one becomes homesick for some permanency again. Just look at all the buses and motorhomes advertised in the Trader Mags.
Maybe you should avail yourself to longer
treks away from
home and take SWMBO with you occasionally. If you are still working then you could try for a job in remote Australia at servcie outlets or in mining.
It's a dilemma....lol
Cheers
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Reply By: growler - Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 22:10
Saturday, Jan 27, 2007 at 22:10
Grab the dog(4 footed)and run
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Reply By: Truckster (Vic) - Sunday, Jan 28, 2007 at 10:48
Sunday, Jan 28, 2007 at 10:48
Honestly, you wont miss her...
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Reply By: Member - Brian H (QLD) - Sunday, Jan 28, 2007 at 10:50
Sunday, Jan 28, 2007 at 10:50
It would be very hard to pull up stumps after 35 years as said elsewhere here, the network of friends and family is a huge thing (phone just don't cut it sometimes). To simply go to the unknown. Maybe worth it if you can hook up a caravan and travell a few months at a time and look at whats around.
At least your wife knows there is a place to return to, you never know your wife may just find a place she would be happy to move to or enjoys the travelling.
I just returned from a short trip and met a couple of people at both ends of the scale they had sold everything one had been on the road for 3 years and where now looking for a place to settle. The other had sold twelve months or less ago and are doing the travelling thing. Both where having a great time.
Good luck
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Reply By: Member - Lis & Paul (NZ) - Sunday, Jan 28, 2007 at 12:00
Sunday, Jan 28, 2007 at 12:00
We are in the processing of moving out having rented the house which we've been in 8 years - I ve actually lived in NZ more or less full time for 16 years. Now Im hoping never to be stuck in one place for so long again. With your best friends it doesnt matter where you are - they will still be in contact and its so much easier with email than it used to be. The rest wont notice you've gone and wont notice when you come back - there lives wont have changed so they dont realise you've dropped out for a while.
The cuirous thing about this thread is that as Ozzies you think its a big deal moving interstate - NZers dont even count moving within NZ as a move !
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Reply By: Tia Maria - Sunday, Jan 28, 2007 at 13:41
Sunday, Jan 28, 2007 at 13:41
County Durham, Lake District, RAF (National Service-various), Midlands (got married),
Sheffield, London (fed up with city and UK),
Canberra,
Brisbane,
Newcastle, Speers Point, Warners Bay,
Castle Hill, Bowral, Burradoo, Campbelltown, Wedderburn, Minto Heights, (retired)
Coffs Harbour.
Go to it mate, nothing like a move to get you out of the rut and living it up.
good luck,
John L.
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Reply By: terryc - Friday, Feb 23, 2007 at 15:33
Friday, Feb 23, 2007 at 15:33
G'day Axle,
You in a bit of trouble there mate? I had a similar dilemma mid last year.
After 40yrs. in the one place we thought it was time to try somewhere else. The problem was me though, I didn't want to leave the grandkids, the missus was a bit shakey on it to. We had done 2 tours of OZ and decided that the place to be was on the
Murray river somewhere, so we decided on
Echuca in Vic.[ no doubt there are some people that won't agree with me].
So what we decided to do was rent a place for 12 months at a reasonable rent, and rent our place out to reputable people for the same rent that we are paying, hence, they pay our rent.
Now, if you want to move into the backblocks somewhere you might be in trouble, but if you move within a days drive of your family and [ she who must be obeyed's friends] as we did, then that, I'm cut off feeling doesn't seem to happen. We see the kids on holidays etc. and we visit now and then, all the time knowing that should things not work out, we still have a
home to go to.
Verdict so far? We should have done it 10yrs. ago and chances are we are here till we fall off the perch.
Stay safe,
Terry C.
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